Relationship Dating Advice on Why Some Relationships Don't Work
Relationship dating advice that will help prevent you getting into the wrong kind of relationship, or into a relationship with the wrong person. If you are aware of these when dating & relationships are what you're after, then you might want to read more
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There are a number of reasons why relationships don’t work out – some reasons are to do with being with the wrong person, and other reasons are to do with the dynamics between the two of you. To assess whether you are with the wrong person, you could consider the following reasons: - Your lifestyle is incompatible with your partner’s e.g. he loves watching television and you love to socialise
- Your values and cultural backgrounds are too different and there isn't enough overlap e.g. he likes gambling and you enjoy visiting art galleries.
- Your partner has qualities that make having a successful relationship impossible e.g. very selfish, a workaholic
Simply put, because there aren’t enough overlapping aspects that you can share or enjoy together, you can’t give each other enough of what you need. If your relationship isn’t working and you are with the right person the reasons for it going wrong could be to do with what happens between you. For example: - You neglect the relationship because you are time poor
- You may not be communicating in a healthy way i.e. blaming, criticising with not enough positives, sharing and appreciation
- You may not be communicating enough ie sweeping things under the carpet for fear of conflict
- You feel uncomfortable with intimacy or don’t know how to create it
- You don’t ask for what you want, and end up feeling resentful or a victim
The good news is that all these issues can be resolved, as long as you are both willing to learn and make changes.
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The questions to ask yourselves are:
- “How much are we both willing to compromise?”
- “Is there enough common ground for us to continue?”
- "Are we willing to build on the positives?
For relationships to last there needs to be a balance between separateness and togetherness, stability and variety or change and the ability to adapt to change. Good communication underpins all these factors because it enables you to let your partner know what’s troubling you, what your feelings and needs are so that you are both aware of the problem and can discuss how to resolve it. Separateness is about your level of independence which comes in the form of having your own work and hobbies and about being a person in your own right, having your own opinions and interests, feeling confident in yourself. Togetherness is about sharing physical and emotional intimacy and about making enough time to do things together. True intimacy is about being able to share your feelings and desires without fear of annoying or upsetting your partner, nor being concerned whether they will agree or disagree. Relationship dating advice can help if you are willing to be open and learn about yourself. The Journey process is a powerful process to help you clear emotions such as low self esteem, fear of rejection and other feelings that might cause you to get into the wrong relationship.
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