Confidence Building for Singles Dating
Is getting into a relationship being thwarted by your lack of confidence?
Your confidence can be affected by: - your own and others expectations of yourself
- your ability to believe in and have faith in ourselves
- your level self worth – valuing yourself, feeling worthwhile, good about ourselves without having to feel superior or better than
- how you think about yourself - not in comparison to others but realistically within our own capabilities, strengths and potential
- fears of rejection and being hurt
- fear of failure
For singles dating, it is easy to focus on relationships that haven't worked in the past. Keeping your attention on your failures and mistakes rather than on what you have accomplished, can make you feel bad and lowers the opinion you have of yourself. This can lead to low self esteem and will drag you down so that you stop believing in your ability to achieve what you want.
A great start is to be willing to ask yourself:
“How do I limit myself or put myself down?” and begin focussing on the positive – seeing the “glass half full” in any challenging situation.
You can start building confidence by:
- identifying the positive aspects of yourself
- valuing yourself despite your shortcomings, faults or weaknesses
- focussing on your resources, what you have to offer and what you are capable of and
- be willing to “change the things you can change, accept the things you cannot change, and have the wisdom to know the difference”.
Lack of
confidence
sometimes comes from FEAR - fear of rejection, fear of being hurt, fear of intimacy, fear of not being good enough.You might want to ask yourself: What are my fears? Where do they come from? Are they valid? To get to the core of these and clear them out, read about
The Journey
So how can you improve things?
Individual
coaching
sessions can be used for confidence building.Develop a plan to become more positive and encouraging towards yourself:
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